There have been surveys and studies done on the difference between, how much more woman talk than men. It has been suggested that although men are usually the ones initiating the conversation, women are the ones who usually keep them going. Aside from all the talking we are doing, we are also the ones trying to "figure things out in our lives" and or "working on bettering ourselves;" yet, we can never listen long enough to get advice on how to make that change. It can be concluded that we frequently seek advice, but talk so much that we don't even hear it. We complain about no one understanding us, but we're so busy yapping that we haven't heard our significant other agree with what we just said. Instead, we ignore the people around us, we constantly talk and ask questions, but never listen.
We talk to our girlfriends, guy friends, co-workers, siblings, and even our moms all day. We tell our problems, highs, lows, and anything we think is important. If we took a break from it, we could see that life answers its own questions. You could see that the minute that question popped into your head, the answer to it came behind it. You just have to stay quiet long enough to realize it. You are beyond brilliant and you can do any thing you want without anyones help. Your problem is that you're so reluctant to talk, you keep asking people to tell you things you already know. Give yourself a chance, sit down and think for a moment, relax and let your mind be free without you telling your every thought. You will realize that life is a little easier without everyone else's input.
Stop asking him why he can't express himself. He can express his feelings, you just do it way too much. Hold some stuff back sometimes. Leave something for him to wonder about. If you put it all out there at once, he'll get bored quick. He does love you, you just have to be quiet so you can hear him say it. She is a good friend, you just never gave her a chance to offer her advice on your problems. Your mother doesn't love your sister more than you; you were wrong about that. Its just that when sister girl goes and asks mommy dearest for advice, she actually listens to what mommy has to say. You ask a question, then complain the entire time afterwards, talking about "no one listens to me, nobody never wants to help me with my problems ma."
So many woman complain that the communication has died in their relationships, or that they wish someone had warned them about such and such. Please let me be the first to tell you, someone did warn you about that guy, someone did tell you to be careful because decision making is hard, your older sister said that love does hurt sometimes, and your boyfriend does not have a problem with talking to you. Sometimes we have to Shut The Hell Up! I don't know what's wrong with some of us ?, mama never told you "ladies are to be seen and not heard." We talk so much but we never listen. We come home to our men and before he can kiss you and say whats for dinner, you have already got into an hour long conversation that only you were engaged in. My advice is to switch it up a little. When you get home, ask him how his day went, let him talk for a change. Stop telling your girlfriend all your problems, listen to her issues for once. I know we love to hear ourselves talk and we just have to get out point across or we will just die; but just shut up for a second, it's good for you. Ladies, WE truly are crazy and we don't know what the hell we want. Alot of what we ask and talk about could be answered and understood if we observed instead. If we listen we could see so many things differently. Life's drama would not be drama at all. Shut up, look around; don't you see that when your talking your eyes and ears are wide shut. Be quiet, listen; you may learn something.
We talk to our girlfriends, guy friends, co-workers, siblings, and even our moms all day. We tell our problems, highs, lows, and anything we think is important. If we took a break from it, we could see that life answers its own questions. You could see that the minute that question popped into your head, the answer to it came behind it. You just have to stay quiet long enough to realize it. You are beyond brilliant and you can do any thing you want without anyones help. Your problem is that you're so reluctant to talk, you keep asking people to tell you things you already know. Give yourself a chance, sit down and think for a moment, relax and let your mind be free without you telling your every thought. You will realize that life is a little easier without everyone else's input.
Stop asking him why he can't express himself. He can express his feelings, you just do it way too much. Hold some stuff back sometimes. Leave something for him to wonder about. If you put it all out there at once, he'll get bored quick. He does love you, you just have to be quiet so you can hear him say it. She is a good friend, you just never gave her a chance to offer her advice on your problems. Your mother doesn't love your sister more than you; you were wrong about that. Its just that when sister girl goes and asks mommy dearest for advice, she actually listens to what mommy has to say. You ask a question, then complain the entire time afterwards, talking about "no one listens to me, nobody never wants to help me with my problems ma."
So many woman complain that the communication has died in their relationships, or that they wish someone had warned them about such and such. Please let me be the first to tell you, someone did warn you about that guy, someone did tell you to be careful because decision making is hard, your older sister said that love does hurt sometimes, and your boyfriend does not have a problem with talking to you. Sometimes we have to Shut The Hell Up! I don't know what's wrong with some of us ?, mama never told you "ladies are to be seen and not heard." We talk so much but we never listen. We come home to our men and before he can kiss you and say whats for dinner, you have already got into an hour long conversation that only you were engaged in. My advice is to switch it up a little. When you get home, ask him how his day went, let him talk for a change. Stop telling your girlfriend all your problems, listen to her issues for once. I know we love to hear ourselves talk and we just have to get out point across or we will just die; but just shut up for a second, it's good for you. Ladies, WE truly are crazy and we don't know what the hell we want. Alot of what we ask and talk about could be answered and understood if we observed instead. If we listen we could see so many things differently. Life's drama would not be drama at all. Shut up, look around; don't you see that when your talking your eyes and ears are wide shut. Be quiet, listen; you may learn something.
