As women, we share good and bad stories about our relationships. Sometimes, we tell how a man has hurt or betrayed us and sometimes we're bragging about how wonderful he is. Usually, the friend will agree and say, "my guy does that too, he's so sweet" or disagree saying, "my man refuses to that." When conversations like that occur, our minds begin to wander. We start thinking, "if her boyfriend cheated and she didn't know until he left her for the side-chick, my man probably doing the same thing" or, we say to ourselves, "why can't my relationship be more like theirs ? And This Ladies, Is Where We Go Wrong!!
Do Not, I repeat, Do Not, base your relationships off of someone else's. And don't be looking all crazy when you read this, because you know you instantly caught an attitude with your boyfriend, when your best friend announced, that she and her short time boyfriend were getting married. Your first thought was, " Joe and I been together longer than them and that fool still ain't propose to me." Now, you mad at him for being his self, you causing unnecessary drama, he mad because he don't know why you mad and the chaos begins. Never compare your man! Everyone's relationship is different. Don't get mad and tell him he can't hold your car, because Lisa down the street caught her husband with another woman in their car. That's not fair. If you treat him like he's a dog before he start acting like one, then you deserve what ever you were contemplating on him doing. Respect your man as an individual, don't put him in the category with all other guys. When you do that, you' re already setting up your relationship for failure. What you should do, is reward him because he didn't try to pull that stunt like Bill down the block did. Treat him like a king (if he's a good man) and he will treat you like a queen. If you start treating him like a peasant, you better be prepared to get left overs. Men are like children, when you give them candy they want to be good. They behave because they know when they get home, they got a good chance of receiving compensation. If you act all unappreciative they "gon' run wild."
Instead of punishing him you should be training him. If you never set rules for him to follow, how you gonna get mad at him for breaking them?
