A friend of mine once said "love means sacrifice”. In a relationship, changes must be made to both parties otherwise it will not work. I totally agreed with her. Mostly, because it made sense to me at the time and also because I had never been in love before. But now, I say HELL NO!!!!!
Alright, I know, I got a little carried away. But, I have good reason. Most of these men want you to change your hair (stop wearing weave), your make up, the way you dress, the clubs you go to, even your religion. So now you at his church, looking jacked up in the face, with your natural(nappy) hair out; not to mention, you’re wearing the most unflattering outfit, and you’re so mad and frustrated you don't even care about missing that party last week. I refuse to make major alterations; meanwhile, the only thing different about him is his phone number, and we all know why he changed that. Stop changing who you are, so he can feel like a man. Don't get me wrong, if he is a good man then I will not mind making some minor adjustments. It won't bother me because I know he wouldn't think twice about doing the same for me. But ladies, we know the pickings are slim and I doubt you got a good man. Let’s just be real! Do not allow him to re-invent your appearance, because he can't handle your beauty; don't let him make you hide behind hideous clothing and ridiculous hair styles, because he's scared that other men will look at you; and definitely do not let him convince you NOT to take that job, because his ego isn't prepared for your independence. I've seen women reconstruct and transform themselves to an entirely different person just so he can feel secure. But, after you've made all those "corrections" on his behalf, the question is, are you happy? You put in all of that hard work and received peanuts in return. If he can't appreciate who you truly are, then he doesn’t really love you. I'm not rebuilding everything that took me so long to create. Love yourself and if he doesn’t, then tell him to keep it moving. You should want a man that loves the way you look and dress. He should be flattered when other men stop and stare because he knows that you’re HIS WOMAN. If you a party girl, find somebody that's going to party with you, not someone who's gonna make you sit home every weekend because he got trust issues.
He’s supposed to encourage that promotion, because he knows how hard you worked for it. Make him meet you half way. Real love is 50/50, o.k., o.k. 60/40. Stop letting him fill your mind with that non-sense. You were a woman when he met you; don't let him treat you like a child. You are his lady, not his daughter. If you’re going to change, do it on your own terms. DON'T YOU LET THAT MAN CHANGE YOU!
Alright, I know, I got a little carried away. But, I have good reason. Most of these men want you to change your hair (stop wearing weave), your make up, the way you dress, the clubs you go to, even your religion. So now you at his church, looking jacked up in the face, with your natural(nappy) hair out; not to mention, you’re wearing the most unflattering outfit, and you’re so mad and frustrated you don't even care about missing that party last week. I refuse to make major alterations; meanwhile, the only thing different about him is his phone number, and we all know why he changed that. Stop changing who you are, so he can feel like a man. Don't get me wrong, if he is a good man then I will not mind making some minor adjustments. It won't bother me because I know he wouldn't think twice about doing the same for me. But ladies, we know the pickings are slim and I doubt you got a good man. Let’s just be real! Do not allow him to re-invent your appearance, because he can't handle your beauty; don't let him make you hide behind hideous clothing and ridiculous hair styles, because he's scared that other men will look at you; and definitely do not let him convince you NOT to take that job, because his ego isn't prepared for your independence. I've seen women reconstruct and transform themselves to an entirely different person just so he can feel secure. But, after you've made all those "corrections" on his behalf, the question is, are you happy? You put in all of that hard work and received peanuts in return. If he can't appreciate who you truly are, then he doesn’t really love you. I'm not rebuilding everything that took me so long to create. Love yourself and if he doesn’t, then tell him to keep it moving. You should want a man that loves the way you look and dress. He should be flattered when other men stop and stare because he knows that you’re HIS WOMAN. If you a party girl, find somebody that's going to party with you, not someone who's gonna make you sit home every weekend because he got trust issues.
He’s supposed to encourage that promotion, because he knows how hard you worked for it. Make him meet you half way. Real love is 50/50, o.k., o.k. 60/40. Stop letting him fill your mind with that non-sense. You were a woman when he met you; don't let him treat you like a child. You are his lady, not his daughter. If you’re going to change, do it on your own terms. DON'T YOU LET THAT MAN CHANGE YOU!
